I have another scenario to add here - it's when in temples Pandit ji ask for name. It's usually a women who tells Panditji to offer coconut and saari to Devi and Panditji ask for name so that he can tell Devi that this this person has offered you something. When he asks the name he expects women's married surname. And I have to go to tem…
I have another scenario to add here - it's when in temples Pandit ji ask for name. It's usually a women who tells Panditji to offer coconut and saari to Devi and Panditji ask for name so that he can tell Devi that this this person has offered you something. When he asks the name he expects women's married surname. And I have to go to temples either with my MiL or my mom. And as I have not changed my name, I tell Panditji my first name. My mom gets furious everytime I do this. And asks me to tell my family name. I find it irritating but comical everytime this happens with me and mom in picture. But I make sure I fight it out everytime with her. My MiL is much refined than my mom, she doesn't get furious on me. But she gives another name which is my husband's full name to Panditji herself. I feel guilty after that, thinking I did not give her son's name. Then when I think about this whole scenario it feels so idiotic and yet I feel guilty whenever this happens.
I have another scenario to add here - it's when in temples Pandit ji ask for name. It's usually a women who tells Panditji to offer coconut and saari to Devi and Panditji ask for name so that he can tell Devi that this this person has offered you something. When he asks the name he expects women's married surname. And I have to go to temples either with my MiL or my mom. And as I have not changed my name, I tell Panditji my first name. My mom gets furious everytime I do this. And asks me to tell my family name. I find it irritating but comical everytime this happens with me and mom in picture. But I make sure I fight it out everytime with her. My MiL is much refined than my mom, she doesn't get furious on me. But she gives another name which is my husband's full name to Panditji herself. I feel guilty after that, thinking I did not give her son's name. Then when I think about this whole scenario it feels so idiotic and yet I feel guilty whenever this happens.
Guilt is the only true life partner women have 😅