Unfortunate reality — it's up to all of us to play up the achievements and advancements of our fellow women beyond their wedding makeup and outfit. If we don't, then who would? Definitely not the raja betas.
Nice read. Garima's story brought back memories of Julia Roberts' introduction scene in Notting Hill (https://youtu.be/PQkAVrycUnk) - Watch from 2:15 onwards. It's hilarious !! Unfortunately, even in this day and age, a woman earning more than a man is a concept as alien as the "string theory" for most people. All we can do is teach ourselves first and our kids next to remove these dark glasses of bias and see everyone for who they are and respect them and their choices.
Oh this is just a brilliant connection! One of my favourite movie moments - I can't believe I missed linking it in the post itself! Thank you for connecting the dots so brilliantly, Vishal :)
You’re welcome. Keep up the excellent writing. I’m imploring my daughters to read your stuff. Hope they get a better perspective of the world around them than we ever did.
Kudos to you. Really appreciate what you are doing.
One question, would it be possible to write region specific articles that highlight issues characteristic to certain geos perhaps?
I am interested in reading about how gender inequality, patriarchy, and entitlement play out in different parts of the country, especially in the rural hinterlands.
Thank you Sudha! I would do that but it sounds dangerously close to regional stereotyping, so best to stay away. However, I do conduct in-depth podcast interviews with women and each guest brings the flavour of their own region to the conversation. You could check them out here: https://open.spotify.com/show/07ybD3OdCa1AGUO4Elh5H9
All too familiar scenarios that we have normalised since ages - even realising that these scenarios are extremely unfair is a step forward for women. Thank you for putting it out there!
I felt like I have lived all these experiences despite being in completely different circumstances. I, who earn the equivalent of a regular b-school grad without having any technical degree (sheer hard work and a stroke of luck) am often overshadowed by my brother's achievement (even though they ARE greater than my own and I'm very proud of him). However, my parents' enthusiasm over him getting the smallest recognition at work is boundless compared to mine when I got a promotion. It was acknowledged once and then forgotten. I don't see the same pride and confidence they feel for my brother towards me. It's very disheartening. Thanks for writing Mahima, my boss sent me Seen and the Unseen (which led me to your blog) - to help me gain more confidence at work (I can be timid at time and cannot take tough decisions). Learning everyday and these posts really help :)
Hugs to you, Aakansha. Also, I love your boss! If you don't mind, could you DM me her/his name and the name of your organization please? Just out of curiosity so I know who to send virtual love to :)
Please reply to any of my newsletter emails and it will reach me.
Touching stories and these are not stories but everyday experience for woman. As a man, I have realised that no matter how much we try, we can never completely understand how subtle biases are embedded in our daily lives, even in the most progressive families.
Unfortunate reality — it's up to all of us to play up the achievements and advancements of our fellow women beyond their wedding makeup and outfit. If we don't, then who would? Definitely not the raja betas.
Nice read. Garima's story brought back memories of Julia Roberts' introduction scene in Notting Hill (https://youtu.be/PQkAVrycUnk) - Watch from 2:15 onwards. It's hilarious !! Unfortunately, even in this day and age, a woman earning more than a man is a concept as alien as the "string theory" for most people. All we can do is teach ourselves first and our kids next to remove these dark glasses of bias and see everyone for who they are and respect them and their choices.
Oh this is just a brilliant connection! One of my favourite movie moments - I can't believe I missed linking it in the post itself! Thank you for connecting the dots so brilliantly, Vishal :)
You’re welcome. Keep up the excellent writing. I’m imploring my daughters to read your stuff. Hope they get a better perspective of the world around them than we ever did.
Always the highest compliment when parents say that! Thank you!!
Mahima
Kudos to you. Really appreciate what you are doing.
One question, would it be possible to write region specific articles that highlight issues characteristic to certain geos perhaps?
I am interested in reading about how gender inequality, patriarchy, and entitlement play out in different parts of the country, especially in the rural hinterlands.
Thank you Sudha! I would do that but it sounds dangerously close to regional stereotyping, so best to stay away. However, I do conduct in-depth podcast interviews with women and each guest brings the flavour of their own region to the conversation. You could check them out here: https://open.spotify.com/show/07ybD3OdCa1AGUO4Elh5H9
Absolutely, I have been binge reading the articles here.
Vishal, pls do show these articles to your sons and the males in your family. Because at the end of the day, it is the males who need to change.
All too familiar scenarios that we have normalised since ages - even realising that these scenarios are extremely unfair is a step forward for women. Thank you for putting it out there!
I felt like I have lived all these experiences despite being in completely different circumstances. I, who earn the equivalent of a regular b-school grad without having any technical degree (sheer hard work and a stroke of luck) am often overshadowed by my brother's achievement (even though they ARE greater than my own and I'm very proud of him). However, my parents' enthusiasm over him getting the smallest recognition at work is boundless compared to mine when I got a promotion. It was acknowledged once and then forgotten. I don't see the same pride and confidence they feel for my brother towards me. It's very disheartening. Thanks for writing Mahima, my boss sent me Seen and the Unseen (which led me to your blog) - to help me gain more confidence at work (I can be timid at time and cannot take tough decisions). Learning everyday and these posts really help :)
Hugs to you, Aakansha. Also, I love your boss! If you don't mind, could you DM me her/his name and the name of your organization please? Just out of curiosity so I know who to send virtual love to :)
Please reply to any of my newsletter emails and it will reach me.
Just started watching ‘Dil dhadakne do’ and it’s a gold mine of memes in just first 14 min!!
All the stories you have narrated above are such a sad reflection of our society!
Hello mahima! Enjoyed reading this article, thought provoking yet makes one blood boil! Thank you for saying these stories.
Touching stories and these are not stories but everyday experience for woman. As a man, I have realised that no matter how much we try, we can never completely understand how subtle biases are embedded in our daily lives, even in the most progressive families.
Going to keep recommending this newsletter to every woman in my life! Too good!
Oh I mean…now you think you will know everything because well…an award! ‘While men are celebrated just for having an employment’. Just..