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I had to take breaks while reading this. The trauma was palpable. The words were hard hitting.

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Feb 27, 2021Liked by Mahima Vashisht

Thanks Mahima for sharing such an intimate and important incident from your life. I was aware of some of these problems but the details.... the details make you realize the horrors of this story! I or any other man can only empathise, we cannot feel the pain you went through or countless other like you who have faced worse. Needless to remind you that you are a terrific writer whose choice of words are style of narration can make it a story worth remembering. So please don't worry about the reactions. You are doing great!

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This trauma is unimaginable. I wish I hadn't learned two new concepts today - obstetric violence and birth rape. It must have been such a challenge to first face and then almost relive that trauma when you accessed those memories to able to write about it in such a real way. More power and love to you for turning the spotlight on an issue we all need to learn more about and tackle!

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Apr 12Liked by Mahima Vashisht

Great Chronicles of what women go through in this country. Good work Mahima

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Mar 2, 2021Liked by Mahima Vashisht

Thanks so much Mahima for talking about many critical topics in a woman's life. This specific topic is hardly talked about and woman themselves try to keep it hushed up, without realising what their silence is costing the future moms

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Feb 27, 2021Liked by Mahima Vashisht

Personally I can’t feel what you went through ( deeply sorry and I empathize with you ) but having seen several cases of doctors outright recommending C-section ( with no obvious reason or need to explain ) made me feel , Deliverying a baby has become about money , at least in some places... 😌😌

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Hi, Mahima! I recently heard you talk about your amusingly inspiring life story on Amit's podcast. I recently gave up on civil services prep after slogging for almost 4 years and listening to your UPSC journey only solidified my voice of reason so thank you! Hearing you talk so effortlessly totally felt like conversing with my elder sister. :)

I wanted to let you know that I'm very proud of what you're doing and who you've come to be as a woman. I admire you for choosing to face the fear inside and instead letting the words inside you flow for all of us to enjoy and feel empowered. :)

Coming to this blog, it must've taken so much of your energy and willpower to go through all of this in your head again and put your riveting story, among others', out into the world. I salute you and all the women you've mentioned and hope that some change would gradually come about in terms of Indian healthcare and cultural mindset. So much indeed needs to happen on the ground and I hope to, like you, become a changemaker, in years to come. :)

Until next time,

Much love,

Priya. <3

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First time I don't agree to many things said here. Really sorry for what you went through but couple of things-

1. Pregnancy is a super long period and one should select doctor based on pedigree (for me this is sacrosanct), reviews on Google and practo and your personal meetings. We all are different and need different things from our doctors e.g I am extremely emotional and I needed my doctor to hear me out without judging me. We found our doctor after a long research and meeting many doctors.

2. If you get multiple red flags change doctor or shout it out. trust me speaking is really important.

3. C sec is an operation , saying things like comical horse injection is really not necessary. I get that you angry but refrain from creating more fear. I too had c sec and I was shit scared and my anesthesia doctor, he was an angel (the protocol is for them to literally narrate every thing they do ) but this protocol just made me more anxious so I asked him just do waht you want but don't tell me . Again discuss and share what you have in mind , how you like things to be.

4. Waiting despite your appointment is common in medical and my own husband cribbed about that. But ever wondered why would that happen. When we expect our doctors to be compassionate towards us should we also not try to be more considerate as well ? People pop babies 24*7 and just before my appointment my doc rushed out of her room to attend another patient in labour. I really can't blame her for that , infact I appreciated that she worked long hours to attend to me instead of cancelling on us.

You have excellent style of writing and coupled with power of social media and your client base it would help to share a balanced view and probably a best practices guide on how o really find your obstetrician 😀

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