The Month of Love: Part 3/4
This is a fabulous write up! I am 40, divorced and a single mum and about 8 mo ago i joined Bumble...I was more looking at exclusivity and not a marriage... But 8 mo down the line I realized that online dating is surely not for me so I chose to quit... Feel definitely lighter after quitting.
Very engaging...couldn't stop reading until the end. Absolutely love the way you enrich your articles with stories - they're deeply insightful
Keep up the good work! :-)
You have touched quite a few nerve points, in though in India it is increasingly becoming difficult to stay alone, independent as society for all things said verbally, action wise depict something totally different
Great series. And some real TIL moments.
You write so eloquenty, probably it is time consuming too.
But please dont peddle junk science on marriage. It takes away the seriousness of issues you take up,of which most are genuine and useful especially in case of India.
I am linking some actual papers and I hope you will link them in your next post and let your readers decide which is "Science" and which is not.
write-up for the love book
an actual paper comparing ALE and TLE by marital status in USA (tough to find papers of other countries)
some evidence from Denmark, furthering your point, but not exactly as there is a little subset in which women having lower LE is true.
AND a heuristic you can use while communicating science esp related to behavioural and psych science - news links which dont provide the hyperlink to the paper they are talking of AND psych science (happiness et al) is most of the times junk (except evolutionary psychology)
Personal Opinion on why you should link these -- I think if any of the partner goes with his/her radars up in a relationship or on their toes all time without mutual respect (which some impressionable young woman could do as she will think marriage is of no use to me personally, which will be contrary to available evidence); it makes it tougher to make something beautiful together, which is then a self fulfilling logic. A happy and loving marriage is useful & helpful for both the sexes and it cant be loving if either of them go with their radars up of getting a raw deal.
I have no qualms about any other issues which you highlight ; are genuine and funny, sometimes. (investment in app, preparing dinner like my mother and NRI one etc etc)