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The norm is the same in Kerala. Husbands have names like "listen", "look here' (nokkoo) etc. On the top many call "chetta" , which means elder. This goes even crazier. My grandmother used to call my cousin by a different name. When I asked why she told me that my cousin's original name is my grandpa's name too. So, you are not supposed to utter your pathi's name even if you are calling someone else. Which reminded me of this story :

After 41 days of vratham (godly routine dedicated to devotion ), s Malathi started her journey to Sabarimala. Needless to say, she is older than 60. People go to Sabarimala in groups. There will be a main Swamy (everyone addresses each other as Swamy during that period) which leads the way. They have a pretty catchy slogan while travelling "swamiye ayyapa". Ayyappan is the god sitting in Sabarimala. The main swami will shout "swamiye" and the followers should shout "ayyappa".. This will happen everywhere. In the bus, train, and tea shops. It is a signal that many swamis (godly people) are coming and you need to make space for them. But many found Malathi mumbling when she was supposed to shout "ayyappa". When it was a large group she was not noticeable. But one day it was only the main Swamy and her two kids. The main swami heard the mumble behind and gazed with anger. He repeated

"swamiye"

Malathi closed her eyes and shouted "Kuttyolde acha" ( father of my kids.)

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Her husband's name was also Ayyappan

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Jul 29, 2022·edited Jul 29, 2022

Writer Mahima Vasisht

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Wow. caps lock main likhe to sahi hi hoga. Aaj twitter band hei kya ?

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caps fire mail bhee hota hai aur emphasis bhee hota hai.

twitter mein kya hai ?

yeh ladki wahaan bhee likhtee hai kya ?

are bhagwan, ho kya gayaa hai is desh mein.

anyway, i am not on that noisy twitter. but God save those that are, from this kiddish girl

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Uncle ji, writing in the public domain is definitely not for you... Please stop

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Jul 29, 2022·edited Jul 29, 2022

Writer Mahima Vasisht

You ban the public ?!!

That is a cowardly act.

You ban and run away so people cannot even respond.

Ha ha ha ha ha

Hello !!!

Shows you lack experience of REAL LIFE.

Immature, Unrealistic and Impractical.

Society would definitely say you are among those impatient ones who would just throw a marriage away and walk out of family.

So Wake Up.

Feminism is self-destructive.

You want YES BOSS readers. You do not get it.

You are intolerant, ignorant and arrogant.

Beyond those few gone-astray ones and some flatterers, your circle of admirers would not go beyond.

Are you sure you are eligible to ban people ?

If you are hyper-sensitive, writing on public domain is not for you.

Open your Eyes & See

REAL LIFE has BANNED YOU.

You have proven to be a plain INCOMPETENT LOSER in REAL LIFE.

😊

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What a lovely post. I love the ideas that you pick!

Also, fun fact: For the first 8 years of my life, I thought my father's name was "suno" because my mother used to call him that.

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Hein? Mai tou Man hu bhai.

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Jul 29, 2022·edited Jul 29, 2022

Writer Mahima Vasisht

You ban the public ?!!

That is a cowardly act.

You ban and run away so people cannot even respond.

Ha ha ha ha ha

Hello !!!

Shows you lack experience of REAL LIFE.

Immature, Unrealistic and Impractical.

Society would definitely say you are among those impatient ones who would just throw a marriage away and walk out of family.

So Wake Up.

Feminism is self-destructive.

You want YES BOSS readers. You do not get it.

You are intolerant, ignorant and arrogant.

Beyond those few gone-astray ones and some flatterers, your circle of admirers would not go beyond.

Are you sure you are eligible to ban people ?

If you are hyper-sensitive, writing on public domain is not for you.

Open your Eyes & See

REAL LIFE has BANNED YOU.

You have proven to be a plain INCOMPETENT LOSER in REAL LIFE.

😊

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Aug 5, 2022Liked by Mahima Vashisht

I have no idea about voldermort and the talw he is from so those references and gifs made me feel I am really old. That said, I feel Have seen all this way too closely but am thankful to God that no such invisible-ता was around me growing up. Nobody was preaching to anyone about ‘don’t call him by his name’।

यू आर बैक and I am so thrilled. I cannot wait to be shown the mirror and to look for things where O earlier thought nothing exists.

You are doing God’s work and I hope these attacks on you don’t affect you too badly. I am sorry on behalf of these men.

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Thank you so much! Men like you redeem the gender kaafi 🥰

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Jul 26, 2022Liked by Mahima Vashisht

Thanks for such an informative post. Being American, I did not know about this practice. Glad to see that some Indian women are able to push back on this cultural norm.

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Jul 29, 2022·edited Jul 29, 2022

Writer Mahima Vasisht

You ban the public ?!!

That is a cowardly act.

You ban and run away so people cannot even respond.

Ha ha ha ha ha

Hello !!!

Shows you lack experience of REAL LIFE.

Immature, Unrealistic and Impractical.

Society would definitely say you are among those impatient ones who would just throw a marriage away and walk out of family.

So Wake Up.

Feminism is self-destructive.

You want YES BOSS readers. You do not get it.

You are intolerant, ignorant and arrogant.

Beyond those few gone-astray ones and some flatterers, your circle of admirers would not go beyond.

Are you sure you are eligible to ban people ?

If you are hyper-sensitive, writing on public domain is not for you.

Open your Eyes & See

REAL LIFE has BANNED YOU.

You have proven to be a plain INCOMPETENT LOSER in REAL LIFE.

😊

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Jul 28, 2022Liked by Mahima Vashisht

This is exactly the opposite of gender neutral. Husbands addressing wives by name while wives are chastised for using their husband’s name. Husbands addressing wives as “Tu” and wives having to address husbands as “aap” ! The voice inside your head making you angry is the one that is misleading. Not this article

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Jul 29, 2022·edited Jul 29, 2022

Writer Mahima Vasisht

You ban the public ?!!

That is a cowardly act.

You ban and run away so people cannot even respond.

Ha ha ha ha ha

Hello !!!

Shows you lack experience of REAL LIFE.

Immature, Unrealistic and Impractical.

Society would definitely say you are among those impatient ones who would just throw a marriage away and walk out of family.

So Wake Up.

Feminism is self-destructive.

You want YES BOSS readers. You do not get it.

You are intolerant, ignorant and arrogant.

Beyond those few gone-astray ones and some flatterers, your circle of admirers would not go beyond.

Are you sure you are eligible to ban people ?

If you are hyper-sensitive, writing on public domain is not for you.

Open your Eyes & See

REAL LIFE has BANNED YOU.

You have proven to be a plain INCOMPETENT LOSER in REAL LIFE.

😊

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Jul 25, 2022Liked by Mahima Vashisht

Solid post!! And I really enjoyed all the memes and graphics haha! welcome back <3

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Jul 29, 2022·edited Jul 29, 2022

Writer Mahima Vasisht

You ban the public ?!!

That is a cowardly act.

You ban and run away so people cannot even respond.

Ha ha ha ha ha

Hello !!!

Shows you lack experience of REAL LIFE.

Immature, Unrealistic and Impractical.

Society would definitely say you are among those impatient ones who would just throw a marriage away and walk out of family.

So Wake Up.

Feminism is self-destructive.

You want YES BOSS readers. You do not get it.

You are intolerant, ignorant and arrogant.

Beyond those few gone-astray ones and some flatterers, your circle of admirers would not go beyond.

Are you sure you are eligible to ban people ?

If you are hyper-sensitive, writing on public domain is not for you.

Open your Eyes & See

REAL LIFE has BANNED YOU.

You have proven to be a plain INCOMPETENT LOSER in REAL LIFE.

😊

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Jul 25, 2022Liked by Mahima Vashisht

Look who's back with a bang!

No one in the family verbally called out me calling my husband by his name, but eyes were often rolled, and I took so much sadistic pleasure in that 😬

And 'taste their husband’s names on their tongues' is pure gold. Welcome back, Mahima ❤️

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Jul 29, 2022·edited Jul 29, 2022

Writer Mahima Vasisht

You ban the public ?!!

That is a cowardly act.

You ban and run away so people cannot even respond.

Ha ha ha ha ha

Hello !!!

Shows you lack experience of REAL LIFE.

Immature, Unrealistic and Impractical.

Society would definitely say you are among those impatient ones who would just throw a marriage away and walk out of family.

So Wake Up.

Feminism is self-destructive.

You want YES BOSS readers. You do not get it.

You are intolerant, ignorant and arrogant.

Beyond those few gone-astray ones and some flatterers, your circle of admirers would not go beyond.

Are you sure you are eligible to ban people ?

If you are hyper-sensitive, writing on public domain is not for you.

Open your Eyes & See

REAL LIFE has BANNED YOU.

You have proven to be a plain INCOMPETENT LOSER in REAL LIFE.

😊

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Jul 25, 2022Liked by Mahima Vashisht

So excited for Womaning dwiteeya. Awesome post as always! Love how you used HP references in the piece 🙌🏽

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Jul 29, 2022·edited Jul 29, 2022

Writer Mahima Vasisht

You ban the public ?!!

That is a cowardly act.

You ban and run away so people cannot even respond.

Ha ha ha ha ha

Hello !!!

Shows you lack experience of REAL LIFE.

Immature, Unrealistic and Impractical.

Society would definitely say you are among those impatient ones who would just throw a marriage away and walk out of family.

So Wake Up.

Feminism is self-destructive.

You want YES BOSS readers. You do not get it.

You are intolerant, ignorant and arrogant.

Beyond those few gone-astray ones and some flatterers, your circle of admirers would not go beyond.

Are you sure you are eligible to ban people ?

If you are hyper-sensitive, writing on public domain is not for you.

Open your Eyes & See

REAL LIFE has BANNED YOU.

You have proven to be a plain INCOMPETENT LOSER in REAL LIFE.

😊

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Jul 25, 2022Liked by Mahima Vashisht

Funny, sad and true!!

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Jul 29, 2022·edited Jul 29, 2022

Writer Mahima Vasisht

You ban the public ?!!

That is a cowardly act.

You ban and run away so people cannot even respond.

Ha ha ha ha ha

Hello !!!

Shows you lack experience of REAL LIFE.

Immature, Unrealistic and Impractical.

Society would definitely say you are among those impatient ones who would just throw a marriage away and walk out of family.

So Wake Up.

Feminism is self-destructive.

You want YES BOSS readers. You do not get it.

You are intolerant, ignorant and arrogant.

Beyond those few gone-astray ones and some flatterers, your circle of admirers would not go beyond.

Are you sure you are eligible to ban people ?

If you are hyper-sensitive, writing on public domain is not for you.

Open your Eyes & See

REAL LIFE has BANNED YOU.

You have proven to be a plain INCOMPETENT LOSER in REAL LIFE.

😊

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Jul 25, 2022Liked by Mahima Vashisht

ughh yeah so true. Havent faced this personally but it was rampant in the previous generation. Plus since we have multi cultural groups the language tends to be english where its not an issue. In Bengal both husband and wife are expected to use the "tum" pronoun for each other instead of the more familiar "tu" which is what we would use with friends. Seen some relatives be very demanding on this for both men & women but most folks just ignore it & carry on. Hopefully even the "little things" are also imporving

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Jul 28, 2022·edited Jul 28, 2022Liked by Mahima Vashisht

The reality of nature is there are women willing and able to challenge and win against the curbs placed on her by a misogynistic male dominated society. No English words, no male chauvinism, no brutality from an offended male ego can work when faced with that reality.

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Jul 28, 2022Liked by Mahima Vashisht

This is hilarious. You paint a vivid picture of the inside of your head. Just because you use pejoratives does not make the independent woman’s life any less fulfilling. What you have written as truth is just your incredibly warped opinion. To your blossom analogy — Every flower has a unique scent a unique shape and yet they all blossom. Every person has their own path and their own trials tribulations joys and successes. That’s nature and that’s womanhood and indeed its being human.

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Thank you for the mental health investment you made here, PC. I cannot tell you how much it means to see my readers stand up for Womaning ❤️

I have banned this person from commenting on my newsletter henceforth.

Much love to you, and here's to all the chatterbox women out there! May our voices only grow louder! 💪🏽

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Writer Mahima Vasisht

You ban the public ?!!

That is a cowardly act.

You ban and run away so people cannot even respond.

Ha ha ha ha ha

Hello !!!

Shows you lack experience of REAL LIFE.

Immature, Unrealistic and Impractical.

Society would definitely say you are among those impatient ones who would just throw a marriage away and walk out of family.

So Wake Up.

Feminism is self-destructivrle.

You want YES BOSS readers. You do not get it.

You are intolerant, ignorant and arrogant.

Beyond those few gone-astray ones and some flatterers, your circle of admirers would not go beyond.

Are you sure you are eligible to ban people ?

If you are hyper-sensitive, writing on public domain is not for you.

Open your Eyes & See

REAL LIFE has BANNED YOU.

You have proven to be a plain INCOMPETENT LOSER in REAL LIFE.

😊

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Writer Mahima Vasisht

You ban the public ?!!

That is a cowardly act.

You ban and run away so people cannot even respond.

Ha ha ha ha ha

Hello !!!

Shows you lack experience of REAL LIFE.

Immature, Unrealistic and Impractical.

Society would definitely say you are among those impatient ones who would just throw a marriage away and walk out of family.

So Wake Up.

Feminism is self-destructivrle.

You want YES BOSS readers. You do not get it.

You are intolerant, ignorant and arrogant.

Beyond those few gone-astray ones and some flatterers, your circle of admirers would not go beyond.

Are you sure you are eligible to ban people ?

If you are hyper-sensitive, writing on public domain is not for you.

Open your Eyes & See

REAL LIFE has BANNED YOU.

You have proven to be a plain INCOMPETENT LOSER in REAL LIFE.

😊

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Jul 29, 2022·edited Jul 29, 2022

Writer Mahima Vasisht

You ban the public ?!!

That is a cowardly act.

You ban and run away so people cannot even respond.

Ha ha ha ha ha

Hello !!!

Shows you lack experience of REAL LIFE.

Immature, Unrealistic and Impractical.

Society would definitely say you are among those impatient ones who would just throw a marriage away and walk out of family.

So Wake Up.

Feminism is self-destructive.

You want YES BOSS readers. You do not get it.

You are intolerant, ignorant and arrogant.

Beyond those few gone-astray ones and some flatterers, your circle of admirers would not go beyond.

Are you sure you are eligible to ban people ?

If you are hyper-sensitive, writing on public domain is not for you.

Open your Eyes & See

REAL LIFE has BANNED YOU.

You have proven to be a plain INCOMPETENT LOSER in REAL LIFE.

😊

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Jul 29, 2022·edited Jul 29, 2022

Writer Mahima Vasisht

You ban the public ?!!

That is a cowardly act.

You ban and run away so people cannot even respond.

Ha ha ha ha ha

Hello !!!

Shows you lack experience of REAL LIFE.

Immature, Unrealistic and Impractical.

Society would definitely say you are among those impatient ones who would just throw a marriage away and walk out of family.

So Wake Up.

Feminism is self-destructive.

You want YES BOSS readers. You do not get it.

You are intolerant, ignorant and arrogant.

Beyond those few gone-astray ones and some flatterers, your circle of admirers would not go beyond.

Are you sure you are eligible to ban people ?

If you are hyper-sensitive, writing on public domain is not for you.

Open your Eyes & See

REAL LIFE has BANNED YOU.

You have proven to be a plain INCOMPETENT LOSER in REAL LIFE.

😊

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Jul 25, 2022Liked by Mahima Vashisht

Interestingly, it was me (& not my wife) who has been pulled up on more than one occasion by elders in my family, for not conversing with my wife in a "respectful" tone. The respectful tone in this case would have been subtle changes to the verbs used in a sentence (in Bengali or Hindi).

We now stick with English in a public forum! :-)

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Jul 28, 2022Liked by Mahima Vashisht

Well she did manage to manipulate an erudite such as yourself to copy-paste an incoherent blob of text everywhere with a 'Post' option.

Very charming i must say!

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Jul 29, 2022·edited Jul 29, 2022Author

Thank you so much for this, Rwitam 🥰

I have banned this person from commenting on my newsletter now.

As far as trolls go, I got lucky with one of the more complimentary ones out there. Congratulations to both of us - I am charming and you are an eternal virgin :)

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Jul 29, 2022·edited Jul 29, 2022

Writer Mahima Vasisht

You ban the public ?!!

That is a cowardly act.

You ban and run away so people cannot even respond.

Ha ha ha ha ha

Hello !!!

Shows you lack experience of REAL LIFE.

Immature, Unrealistic and Impractical.

Society would definitely say you are among those impatient ones who would just throw a marriage away and walk out of family.

So Wake Up.

Feminism is self-destructive.

You want YES BOSS readers. You do not get it.

You are intolerant, ignorant and arrogant.

Beyond those few gone-astray ones and some flatterers, your circle of admirers would not go beyond.

Are you sure you are eligible to ban people ?

If you are hyper-sensitive, writing on public domain is not for you.

Open your Eyes & See

REAL LIFE has BANNED YOU.

You have proven to be a plain INCOMPETENT LOSER in REAL LIFE.

😊

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Jul 29, 2022·edited Jul 29, 2022

Writer Mahima Vasisht

You ban the public ?!!

That is a cowardly act.

You ban and run away so people cannot even respond.

Ha ha ha ha ha

Hello !!!

Shows you lack experience of REAL LIFE.

Immature, Unrealistic and Impractical.

Society would definitely say you are among those impatient ones who would just throw a marriage away and walk out of family.

So Wake Up.

Feminism is self-destructive.

You want YES BOSS readers. You do not get it.

You are intolerant, ignorant and arrogant.

Beyond those few gone-astray ones and some flatterers, your circle of admirers would not go beyond.

Are you sure you are eligible to ban people ?

If you are hyper-sensitive, writing on public domain is not for you.

Open your Eyes & See

REAL LIFE has BANNED YOU.

You have proven to be a plain INCOMPETENT LOSER in REAL LIFE.

😊

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Jul 25, 2022Liked by Mahima Vashisht

what a coincidence. I was watching harry potter and goblet of fire yesterday, just blown away with the writing Mahima. keep up the good work.

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Jul 28, 2022Liked by Mahima Vashisht

Firstly she is not trying to put men down sir. She is mentioning the ways in which "some men" of our society try to dominate or feel superior of other women. Its just an example to show how the injustice thrives in the society. please do not spread hate.

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Thank you for this kind comment, Sushree. I cannot tell you how much it means to have my readers stand up for the spirit of Womaning, however charming or not :)

I have banned this person from commenting on my newsletter henceforth.

Much love for you!

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Jul 29, 2022Liked by Mahima Vashisht

you go girl!!!!!. Always with you

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Jul 29, 2022·edited Jul 29, 2022

Writer Mahima Vasisht

You ban the public ?!!

That is a cowardly act.

You ban and run away so people cannot even respond.

Ha ha ha ha ha

Hello !!!

Shows you lack experience of REAL LIFE.

Immature, Unrealistic and Impractical.

Society would definitely say you are among those impatient ones who would just throw a marriage away and walk out of family.

So Wake Up.

Feminism is self-destructive.

You want YES BOSS readers. You do not get it.

You are intolerant, ignorant and arrogant.

Beyond those few gone-astray ones and some flatterers, your circle of admirers would not go beyond.

Are you sure you are eligible to ban people ?

If you are hyper-sensitive, writing on public domain is not for you.

Open your Eyes & See

REAL LIFE has BANNED YOU.

You have proven to be a plain INCOMPETENT LOSER in REAL LIFE.

😊

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Well....now in modern time people call their love one or husband hubby... Hallo honey... Hallo dear.. Hallo darling..Hallo my love...Hallo baby....just like that in India our ancestors call eachother ....sunte ho sunti ho .....Roshni ki maa ....Roshni k babuji....etc... there is nothing wrong... wife call his husband sunte ho..... husband call her wife sunti ho...

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suno tum na, bahut hee woh ho.

wo maane the worst person you can think of. Now chill and get your parents out of the gutter in the basement

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Jul 29, 2022·edited Jul 29, 2022

Writer Mahima Vasisht

You ban the public ?!!

That is a cowardly act.

You ban and run away so people cannot even respond.

Ha ha ha ha ha

Hello !!!

Shows you lack experience of REAL LIFE.

Immature, Unrealistic and Impractical.

Society would definitely say you are among those impatient ones who would just throw a marriage away and walk out of family.

So Wake Up.

Feminism is self-destructive.

You want YES BOSS readers. You do not get it.

You are intolerant, ignorant and arrogant.

Beyond those few gone-astray ones and some flatterers, your circle of admirers would not go beyond.

Are you sure you are eligible to ban people ?

If you are hyper-sensitive, writing on public domain is not for you.

Open your Eyes & See

REAL LIFE has BANNED YOU.

You have proven to be a plain INCOMPETENT LOSER in REAL LIFE.

😊

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Jul 29, 2022·edited Jul 29, 2022

Writer Mahima Vasisht

You ban the public ?!!

That is a cowardly act.

You ban and run away so people cannot even respond.

Ha ha ha ha ha

Hello !!!

Shows you lack experience of REAL LIFE.

Immature, Unrealistic and Impractical.

Society would definitely say you are among those impatient ones who would just throw a marriage away and walk out of family.

So Wake Up.

Feminism is self-destructive.

You want YES BOSS readers. You do not get it.

You are intolerant, ignorant and arrogant.

Beyond those few gone-astray ones and some flatterers, your circle of admirers would not go beyond.

Are you sure you are eligible to ban people ?

If you are hyper-sensitive, writing on public domain is not for you.

Open your Eyes & See

REAL LIFE has BANNED YOU.

You have proven to be a plain INCOMPETENT LOSER in REAL LIFE.

😊

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Suniye aap na, thode se wo hain.

Wo maane the worst gaali you can think of. Now chill and get out of basement.

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