Great Piece! I think the psychological roots go deeper! I think since childhood, men are reinforced for faking it, to display themselves as powerful, brave, aggressive, street smart and hence, faking it till you make it{or not) becomes their default behavior. Also, the entitlement they are given while growing up, that they deserve everything because they are men, so a man who qualifies for a job only 10% gets explained, they have been reinforced to make themselves feel relevant in most irrelevant places.
With women, it's the opposite. They are conditioned to feel irrelevant mostly, to be invisible, and always subjected to criticism under the guise of raising a perfect daughter in law for future. We are bound to feel unanchored in our own selves if all we get are question marks!
You see, families are raising boys and girls in a manner that builds their image, of raising perfect males to dominate and perfect females to surrender, so instilling false pride in men and false shame in women! That's also the perfect recipe for toxic male-female relationships eventually.
Our society basically runs on the polarity of pride and shame. Men get exclamations and women get question marks. So makes sense why both genders are deprived of their authenticity.
Really great issue. I #totally relate to this feeling and I have several similar experiences of being aghast with senior male colleagues being confident and complacent in their ignorance
Great Piece! I think the psychological roots go deeper! I think since childhood, men are reinforced for faking it, to display themselves as powerful, brave, aggressive, street smart and hence, faking it till you make it{or not) becomes their default behavior. Also, the entitlement they are given while growing up, that they deserve everything because they are men, so a man who qualifies for a job only 10% gets explained, they have been reinforced to make themselves feel relevant in most irrelevant places.
With women, it's the opposite. They are conditioned to feel irrelevant mostly, to be invisible, and always subjected to criticism under the guise of raising a perfect daughter in law for future. We are bound to feel unanchored in our own selves if all we get are question marks!
You see, families are raising boys and girls in a manner that builds their image, of raising perfect males to dominate and perfect females to surrender, so instilling false pride in men and false shame in women! That's also the perfect recipe for toxic male-female relationships eventually.
Our society basically runs on the polarity of pride and shame. Men get exclamations and women get question marks. So makes sense why both genders are deprived of their authenticity.
Mahima you are a fabulous writer! (I expect you to fully embrace this compliment :) )
Very well written
Lovely read Mahima! Very well written. I love the unpretentious non preaching tone you adopt in your writings!
Bahut hi badhiya 👏👏
Really great issue. I #totally relate to this feeling and I have several similar experiences of being aghast with senior male colleagues being confident and complacent in their ignorance
An article nicely written. The imposter syndrome has been well brought to the fore with examples and clarity.
LOVED this. Keep speaking truth to power, dearest SIL!
Very well written